You want to be close.
You just can't stop bracing for it to end.
Couples, individuals, and life after divorce. Online therapy across Washington and Idaho.
You're having the same fight you had last month, and the month before.
You're deciding whether to stay.
The marriage ended and you're dating again, watching it go the same way.
The job follows him home
and you get whatever's left.
Different rooms. Same pattern.
Whitney Baker
LMFTA | Washington & Idaho
Nobody walks in with a pattern that came out of nowhere. Whatever you're doing, it worked once. It kept things calm, or it got you a response, or it kept you from needing anything from anyone. Then it stopped working and you kept doing it anyway, because that's what happens.
Thirteen years in mental health and social services, Gottman-trained, attachment-based. I am also a volunteer firefighter and EMT, which is its own kind of education in what people carry home.
I still believe in love. Most of the couples I see aren't out of it. They're out of language, and that part is teachable.
More About MeA free 15 minute call to see if we fit. A first session where we start mapping the pattern. Then structured work with something to practice between sessions.
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