You’re Not Failing. You’re Stuck in the Wrong Pattern.
Online couples therapy, individual counseling, and first responders across Washington and Idaho
Whitney Baker, LMFT
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Anxiety and worry
Overthinking
High-functioning anxiety
People-pleasing and perfectionism
Fear of failure
Nervous system dysregulation
Panic and panic attacks
Work stress and burnout
Decision paralysis
Impostor syndrome
Anxiety in relationships
Chronic stress
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Recurring arguments
Emotional disconnection
Feeling more like roommates than partners
Trust and betrayal
Emotional affairs
Intimacy issues
Conflict without resolution
Attachment styles in relationships
Anxious and avoidant partner dynamics
Parenting disagreements
Blended family stress
Premarital counseling
Rebuilding after a crisis
Relationship anxiety
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Occupational stress
First responder burnout
PTSD and trauma processing
Critical incident stress
Hypervigilance
Emotional shutdown
Sleep problems and insomnia
Anger and irritability at home
Career and identity
Relationship strain from the job
Moral injury
Peer pressure to "just push through"
Confidential therapy (no employer involvement)
Fitness for duty concerns
Transition out of service / retirement
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Anxious attachment
Avoidant attachment
Fearful avoidant / disorganized attachment
Fear of abandonment
Push-pull relationship patterns
Difficulty trusting others
Emotional walls
Childhood wounds in adult relationships
Self-worth and self-esteem
Repeating the same relationship patterns
Healing after a difficult upbringing
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First responder spouse support
Law enforcement marriage stress
Secondary trauma in first responder families
Feeling alone in the relationship
Emotional shutdown after shifts
Hypervigilance at home
Shift work and relationship strain
First responder family support group
Supporting a partner with trauma
Communication with a first responder spouse
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Dating anxiety
Attachment styles and dating
People pleasing in relationships
Situationship recovery
Fear of commitment
Self-sabotage in dating
Attracting unavailable partners
Boundary setting
Dating confidence
Healthy relationship skills
Emotional patterns in dating
Young adult relationship support
Break painful cycles of shutdown and conflict.
Communicate clearly without walking on eggshells.
Rebuild emotional and physical intimacy without forced conversations.
Lead confidently at home and at work
In our work together, you can
Welcome!
I'm Whitney Baker, LMFT, a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist serving couples, men, and first responders throughout Washington and Idaho via secure online therapy.
With over 10 years of experience in mental health and social services, I specialize in helping people who are tired of repeating the same painful patterns and ready to build something better.
You won't find empty affirmations or vague advice here. Instead, you get structured, strategic, and emotionally intelligent therapy designed specifically to help you:
Break painful cycles of shutdown and conflict (so you actually feel understood)
Communicate clearly and confidently (without walking on eggshells)
Rebuild emotional and physical intimacy (without the awkwardness or resentment)
Lead with real emotional strength (so you can show up fully in your relationships)
My approach combines attachment science, cognitive-behavioral strategies, and trauma-informed care with practical tools you can use immediately, not months from now.
I offer flexible evening and weekend telehealth appointments for clients across Washington and Idaho, whether you're in Spokane, Tri-Cities, Pullman, Boise, Coeur d'Alene, or anywhere in between.
Ready to stop spinning your wheels and start building something better?