Couples and relationship therapy | Washington and Idaho

You love each other. You just keep landing in the same fight.

Online therapy for couples across Washington and Idaho, from a therapist who will show you the pattern you keep getting caught in.

Book your free 15-minute consult Private pay. Superbills provided.

The pattern

It always starts with something small.

"Why are we doing this again?"

The dishes. The tone. The thing that got said in front of your mom.

By the time you are in it, nobody remembers how it started. One of you pushes for an answer. The other goes quiet. You both end up on opposite ends of the couch, lonely in the same room.

That loop has a shape. Once you can both see it, you can catch it before it takes over the whole night.

Who are you here for?

Different rooms. Same pattern. Start with the one that sounds like you.

Couples Recurring fights, emotional distance, feeling like roommates.
  • Communication breakdowns
  • Infidelity, emotional affairs, rebuilding trust
  • Premarital and becoming parents
  • Mental load
Couples therapy → First responder couples The job follows them home and you get whatever is left.
  • Shift work strain
  • Critical incident stress
  • Secondary trauma for partners
  • Work and home balance
First responder therapy → Couples intensive For couples who have run out of ways to explain themselves to each other.
  • Four hours built around your relationship
  • Inside a six-week process
  • Starts with a free 30-minute consult
Under the Rug intensive → Attachment and dating Done with situationships and done being called too much.
  • Relationship anxiety
  • Anxious and avoidant attachment
  • Feeling like you're too much
  • Dating again
Attachment work → Stay or go, and after Deciding whether to stay, or dating again and watching it go the same way.
  • Deciding whether to stay
  • Life after divorce
  • Co-parenting
Divorce and what comes next → Individual The pattern shows up in you before it shows up in the relationship.
  • Anxiety and overfunctioning
  • People pleasing and codependency
  • Boundaries
  • Work/life balance and life transitions
Individual therapy →
Whitney Baker, LMFTA, couples therapist in Washington and Idaho

Whitney Baker, LMFTA | Washington and Idaho

Nobody walks in with a pattern that came out of nowhere.

Thirteen years in mental health. Gottman-trained and attachment-based. I am also a volunteer firefighter and EMT, which is its own kind of education in what people carry home.

I still believe in love. Most of the couples I see aren't out of it. They're out of language, and that part is teachable.

More about me

How it works

01 A free 15-minute call Phone or video. You tell me what is going on and we figure out whether this is a fit.
02 We map the pattern Your first session is about seeing the loop clearly, from both sides.
03 Structured work between sessions Every session sends you home with something to practice, so change happens in your kitchen too.

Private pay, on purpose.

Sessions are $175.* I am out of network, and many plans reimburse a meaningful part of the fee. I give you a superbill after every session and help you submit it.

*I am in network with Aetna only, with a limited number of spots for Aetna clients.

Rates and reimbursement
  • Nothing goes to your insurance company
    unless you decide to submit it.
  • You decide how often and how long
    No insurance company setting the pace of your work.
  • HSA and FSA cards accepted
    Use the pre-tax dollars you already set aside.

The pattern isn't going to explain itself.

Book a free 15-minute call. If I am not the right person, I will tell you and point you toward someone who is.

Book your free 15-minute consult

Or call or text (509) 798-1437. First responders get priority scheduling.