You love each other. You just keep landing in the same fight.
Online therapy for couples across Washington and Idaho, from a therapist who will show you the pattern you keep getting caught in.
The patternIt always starts with something small.
“Why are we doing this again?”
The dishes. The tone. The thing that got said in front of your mom.
By the time you are in it, nobody remembers how it started. One of you pushes for an answer. The other goes quiet. You both end up on opposite ends of the couch, lonely in the same room.
That loop has a shape. Once you can both see it, you can catch it before it takes over the whole night.
Who are you here for?
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Couples
Recurring fights, emotional distance, feeling like roommates.
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First responder couples
The job follows them home and you get whatever is left.
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Attachment and dating
Done with situationships and done being called too much.
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Stay or go, and after
Deciding whether to stay, or dating again and watching it go the same way.
What people bring to therapy here
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Couples
Recurring fights
Feeling like roommates
Communication breakdowns
Emotional affairs
Infidelity and betrayal
Rebuilding trust
Premarital counseling
Becoming parents
Foundational relationship skills
Mental load
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First responders
When the job comes home
Relationship stress
Work and home balance
Shift work strain
Critical incident stress
Secondary trauma for partners
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Attachment and dating
Relationship anxiety
Anxious attachment
Avoidant attachment
Situationships
Feeling like you’re too much
Dating again
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Stay or go
Deciding whether to stay
Life after divorce
Co-parenting
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Individual
Anxiety
People pleasing
Codependency
Overfunctioning
Boundaries
Work/life balance
Life transitions
Whitney Baker, LMFTA | Washington and Idaho
Nobody walks in with a pattern that came out of nowhere.
Thirteen years in mental health. Gottman-trained and attachment-based. I am also a volunteer firefighter and EMT, which is its own kind of education in what people carry home.
I still believe in love. Most of the couples I see aren’t out of it. They’re out of language, and that part is teachable.
How it works
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01. A free 15-minute call
Phone or video. You tell me what is going on and we figure out whether this is a fit.
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02. We map the pattern
Your first session is about seeing the loop clearly, from both sides.
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03. Structured work between sessions
Every session sends you home with something to practice, so change happens in your kitchen too.
Private pay, on purpose.
Sessions are $170.* I am out of network, and many plans reimburse a meaningful part of the fee. I give you a superbill after every session and help you submit it.
Nothing goes to your insurance company unless you decide to submit it.
You decide how often and how long. No insurance company setting the pace of your work.
HSA and FSA cards accepted. Use the pre-tax dollars you already set aside.
*I am in network with Aetna only, with a limited number of spots for Aetna clients.
The pattern isn't going to explain itself.
Book a free 15-minute call. If I am not the right person, I will tell you and point you toward someone who is.
Book your free 15-minute consultOr call or text (509) 798-1437. First responders get priority scheduling.